I consider this a very good article, with 2 quotes that I will share below, that really stand out to me.  It is at the same time, flawed.  For instance, in mentioning that if homosexuality were as common as it is made to seem, there would be many elderly “coming out” now whom had not before; well, the flaw in that is, while this article comes at the entire situation as a result of either phileo or eros, it neglects the reality that many people pushed it way down, and are in fact capable of just living “celibately” for lack of a better word, in their long marriages, and that many elderly still would not feel comfortable coming out, having come from a society in the past that looked down on homosexuality.  The article blames romanticism as part of the reason for far too much eros, and yet, the elderly of today come from a time where homosexuality was taboo.  Also neglected is the concept that people are blank canvases when they are born, and are not pre-determined to be a particular orientation.  Certainly though, I will say that what ancient Greek males did with male youth was certainly rooted in eros, and so you can see, overriding eros has existed at various times, in different cultures.  Additionally, many a completely heterosexual person have said that they have found themselves at least once in their lives sexually attracted to one person of the same gender; so, if it was just one time, they cannot be completely lacking in exposure to phileo love.

Another flaw I find in this article is, in its linear approach of presenting phileo and eros types of love, it is troubling in that it leads you to think, if you are gay like myself for example, it leads to a type of paranoia; it made me to feel “oh my gosh, what if the person I go out with, is merely a victim of lacking in phileo love?” and so on.  The article is not anti-gay, but it helps clarify: This article explains very clearly one of the greatest reasons why we have so many people who come out as being attracted to the same-gender, and then a few months later, or a year later, they break your heart when you see them dating someone of the opposite gender.

It all makes me to think on so much.  I read an article on new research into schizophrenia, done with the help of about 65,000, and it had a lot to do with the discovery of something lacking in the connections between neurons, and I thought to myself:  When I see this, things like schizophrenia etc, and the things that can lead to it, I think of how inside ourselves we all have a little bit of outer space; but then again, the reality is, we all are our own universes. I think of the person who is more scientifically-prone, and then the more philosophically-inclined like myself, and I think of how most likely we’d never be a match as partners, and I think, wow, I can be like this, and she can be like that, and yet, all these neurons inside us can lead a person to be this way, who may never get a chance to become refined in how they were created to be, either like myself or the former, etc. All because of this outer space inside us.

It’s all so much to comprehend, and these two things, what about bathing a gay person in the Catholic Church?  What about bathing a gay soul into it, or into the Catholic Church’s perspective on life after death?  It’s all as messy as that.  Will the gay soul ask, “Do you really hate all that I have done in loving my spouse?”.

Anyway, here are the two quotes, and the link to the article:

“Polyamory is a glaring example of how phileo is being lost to eros in our modern age. It’s devastating, because eros is not the same as phileo. It’s not as stable. It’s explosive and full of dark urges and needs. It’s a throaty passion that can end badly and lead to tragedy.”

“Gallup issued a poll a few years ago that found an increase in homosexuality. More and more people are identifying as gay, and this isn’t just because they’re coming out of the closet. If that were the case, older people would be identifying as gay at an increasing rate. But this isn’t what’s happening. The increases are among younger people more affected by a sexualized culture coupled with an acceptance of the homosexual lifestyle.

http://thefederalist.com/2015/12/28/how-to-stop-sexualizing-everything/