It’s the typical scenario:  My children drive me crazy!  A frazzled mother, seemingly helpless against warring children.  But if you look more closely, chances are you’ll find a mother, or a mother and father, very neurotic in nature, engaging in behaviors towards their small children, that already by say, age 3, are already making the small children panicky, restless, nervous, unsettled little critters, unable to be at peace.  It’s demonstrated by parents in a number of ways, such as flipping out LITERALLY over some milk that was spilled on the table.  Or, the desire to constantly have to be moving, cleaning the family home and not letting your children near you in the process.  I recently had a discussion with a friend over homosexuality, and the church’s stance on it: while they are unable to separate weird, kinky sexual acts from homosexual acts, this is IN FACT what they must do, and what is hindering them, from ever seeing homosexuality as something natural.  Within both the heterosexual and homosexual sphere, there is the ability to engage in “traditional sexual acts”, that are not skewed, weird, or anything.  My friend said to me, well what if both persons involved want to engage in something kinky?  The answer is simple:  it means that both persons have a skewed vision of personhood, what they are together for, and what the sexual act between the 2 of them means: for them, it is something fun and experimental, which is the very opposite of being loving.  Now, this being the case, imagine how that would effect these 2 persons’ children.  So NOW, if you have 2 people who are in a co-dependent marriage, and cling to each other, even though they are a poor fit for each other, how do you think that will effect the children born of such a marriage?  I experience this first-hand through my own parents.  They are co-dependent, and so there love for each other is skewed, and thus, not only can they not love each other fully and healthily, but how can they love me in such a way?  That is why I do not feel loved by my parents, even though I know intellectually that they love me.  I know the type of people my parents are, so the sexual aspect isn’t a concern, but imagine the effects that this along with kinkiness would have on me and how I view myself and others.  So, if co-dependency alone can affect a child, think of the effect that weird sexual acts would have on children.  And that is that.  Thanks for reading, as always!